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One of my greatest frustrations is how messy I am. Why in the world do I have to manage myself so darn much?

Will God sacrifice me to heal them? Was I just a tool He brought into their life to help them and bring about healing; collateral damage?

I'll begin with, I understand there are many nuances within relationships. This is just one filter I've put into place to check myself as I encounter those who may be different than me, for which I believe can really damage potential, growth opportunity relationships. Here goes... our life is our stage, and we get to be the writers of our own story . It gets confusing because there are a lot of people that “share our stage,” but they have their own story/script. Often, we tr

I couldn't be messier, but I'm also willing to be transparent and take the risk that my journey might be an encouragement.

As I continue to walk my path of healing, I’m consistently surprised by God’s persistence which requires me to look deeper, to heal deeper. Being transparent, it can be quite exhausting. It seems like a constant juggling act – uncovering cobwebs, contemplating truths against lies, and what feels like a never-ending emotional micrographic surgery procedure. Psalm 38:17-18 What is micrographic surgery? It’s the process of removing one thin layer of cancerous tissue at a time; a

Our nervous systems are fascinating... and although, they have "good intentions," are incredibly effective at keeping us stuck! The simple decision to sit in front of my keyboard, literally saying out loud, "You are not allowed to work, you may only journal!" sent my being into a flurry. I thought about doing one of my vagus nerve exercises before starting, but have decided to capture my struggle so I can appreciate the release, giving others a chance to benefit from my jour

Although it's great to have people that are compatible in our life, how do we know they aren't using us?

Bully… no matter what age or stage of life we are in, the word “BULLY” tends to create an upwelling of righteous anger and often, even disgust. So what is the technical definition of “bully”? The repeated action of using strength, influence, or voice (words) to INTIMIDATE or TEAR SOMEONE DOWN ; typically with the goal of CONTROLLING that person – or to SHAME and HUMILIATE them in order to LIFT THEMSELVES UP . We typically go straight to a childhood playground in our mind

I do want to establish that I believe God has called us to share life and to surround ourselves with accountability. That said, I believe that those are limited to a very few and very specific individuals that are typically well adjusted people of character who have the ability to listen while being transparent and honest, even if that means telling you when you’re off the mark. They should also be able to determine and express what is working through a feeling vs. downright

As lover’s of Jesus or "good people,” I feel like we can climb up on our self-righteous perch and tend to deflect responsibility from our daily and destructive sins – weighing them against the perceived egregious sins of others. Interestingly enough, of all the things, specifically listed, that God hates, only one falls into our typical definition of egregious sins. We should all be careful that we know what actually infuriates God based on what He says, not based on our own

I can’t possibly encompass all the ways pride has infiltrated my being, so I thought I’d simply start by sharing the moment the “scales fell off my eyes” and I became devastatingly aware of my pride. I remember driving home from work and innocently praying , “God please reveal any dark area of my heart that you want to change.” What happened next was unexpected and overwhelming. Immediately images began flooding my mind of all the ways I’d walked in pride. It was so devasta

Here are a few things I think we are afraid of. I think we are afraid of being wrong. I’m not really sure why being right is so important.

Sure, we all have areas where we seem a bit more polished – or our gifts and talents allow the illusion of having it all figured out...

Man, why is it so hard to look in the mirror? Pointing our finger is a crazed human reaction.

Without faith, it is impossible to please God, Hebrews 11:6 . Are we willing to sign up for an insane obstacle course –IF- we know what the prize is… if we think it’s worth it? Do we TRUST that God will be faithful to reward us immeasurably more than we could ask or imagine, Ephesians 3:20 ? It’s like we’ve all signed up for “Let’s Make a Deal” with God. “Lord, if you tell me in advance what I’ll ‘win’, then maybe I’ll play.” It’s as if we think there’s a huge ZONK behind th