My Stage - Your Story

I'll begin with, I understand there are many nuances within relationships. This is just one filter I've put into place to check myself as I encounter those who may be different than me, for which I believe can really damage potential, growth opportunity relationships.

Here goes... our life is our stage, and we get to be the writers of our own story. It gets confusing because there are a lot of people that “share our stage,” but they have their own story/script. Often, we try to choreograph their story into our script. We want them to show up on our cue, quote the lines we think are best for our scene, be the character we want. This is a very self-addicted state to be in and very hurtful to others.

We all are trying to figure ourselves out and it’s painful to have people around who keep pulling us out of our journey to better align with theirs. If someone’s character, which causes ACTUAL harm, not perceived harm, doesn’t align with ours, they shouldn’t be in our lives, PERIOD!

But, if that is not the case, we should celebrate their differences and thank them for helping us see it in another way… even if we don’t intend to change our view.

I had the best day recently with a friend who felt safe enough to share that - and why she believes in extraterrestrials and past lives. I’m a woman of deep faith in God and the Bible. We both shared our perspectives with out any intent to convert or change the other’s mind. It was such a vibrant, colorful, fun conversation. We both walked away loving each other more and deepening our friendship.

I feel we have lost the art of allowing others to be themselves and accepting their differences.

My simple filter is, if it doesn’t hurt anyone... isn't morally or legally wrong, then I embrace them and allow them to walk out their own journey. Again, not perceived hurt, not “I’m unhealthy and everything offends me hurt,” - or I morally interpret the Bible in such a way that I'm inclined to impose my understanding onto YOUR life, morals. They have their own stage and own script, and if I’m fortunate enough to have them write me into theirs for a scene or as a main character, how cool is that! I just have to “stay in character” and not morph into one they think fits their story. I hope that makes sense and is helpful as you find the balance of being you, and allowing others to be themselves. Don't forget, I'm a work in progress and I'm still figuring out this tangled ball of yarn, we call life. I hope you'll consider joining my journey of healing. Subscribe for updates!

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Carrie ~