Am I a Bully? Can I be Trusted?

I do want to establish that I believe God has called us to share life and to surround ourselves with accountability. That said, I believe that those are limited to a very few and very specific individuals that are typically well adjusted people of character who have the ability to listen while being transparent and honest, even if that means telling you when you’re off the mark. They should also be able to determine and express what is working through a feeling vs. downright slander.

We’ve all had a moment and probably shared when we shouldn’t have. But this is different, this is repeatedly destroying the trust of a relationship and bullying our loved one into submission with the threat they will be slandered among shared friends and family. When repeatedly, our first response is to create the threat that, if they do not fall in line and do, think, or say what we want, then they can expect to be slandered. This is no different from the bully on the playground daring you to defy them, knowing there will be a price to pay.

The result; a shamed, embarrassed, humiliated, and sometimes, broken beyond repair loved one. This destroys trust, it annihilates intimacy, and it halts growth or healing. This is devastating within a relationship, but what about the destructive wake that ripples through friendships and a family.

A bully is so focused on their own agenda, their own need to feel important, they don’t care who it hurts. They don’t consider the lifelong consequence of their destruction. They effectively take the lives of others in their hands and mold them as they see fit, regardless of any hurt or pain it causes anyone else. They are reckless; but we have to ask ourselves, are we being reckless with our words with our need to be right; are we sowing death into our relationship(s) and those connected to us?

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